When I told them I wouldn't be back anymore, I received a lot of this:
"I'm not coming to tutoring anymore if you're not gonna be here."
"I don't even wanna be here anymore, I hate tutors. You're the only nice one."
"I can't stand subs, I'm not gonna keep coming if there's gonna be a sub. I only like you."
"Why do you have to play softball? I don't want anyone else to teach us."
"If our new tutor is gonna be a man I'm not coming because I don't like them."
...and so on.
At first these statements were a little bittersweet, making me happy to know that they enjoyed their time with me and considered me one of the "nice" tutors, but sad to know I would be leaving them. However, once I began to really think about what they were saying, the happiness faded. Here these kids are at 9 and 10 years old, talking about how much they can't stand other tutors. Mind you almost all of the students in the tutoring program I work for have been in tutoring programs similar to this before. These types of tutoring sessions are old hat to them. They've had different types of tutors, and from what I can tell they were not exactly fond of them. This problem right here is one I believe lies at the core of all problems in our school systems today.
There is a saying that goes "People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care." This is so true, especially in terms of children. If kids do not think you have an interest in them, or if they simply don't like you, they do not care what you have to say. It is imperative that teachers and tutors build a relationship where students can feel comfortable and learning can thus be maximized. However, I feel that most teachers are too busy trying to do the teaching aspect of their job without working on the relational aspect that comes with it. If more people took an interest in these students, I can guarantee that some of these kids would not need to be in tutoring year after year after year. Kids don't need a teacher or tutor who lectures at them all day long. That is not how kids learn. Kids need a teacher or tutor who works at getting to know their students and incorporating their interests into the work.
Teaching these days goes a lot more like this:
Instead of teachers focusing on the interests of their students and getting to know them better, they just move right along with what they decide should be taught, regardless of whether students are actually learning the material or not.
The last 10 minutes of the tutoring session, my students went up to the chalkboard to draw me pictures and to write messages about how much they will miss me. They also requested a group picture so I would remember them. If there was ever any inkling of a doubt in my mind that I shouldn't be a teacher, that day completely erased it. Right then and there I thought "I am absolutely in the right career field."
Those students may not remember a single thing that I taught them (although I really, really, hope they do), but they will remember me and the way I treated them. I had to come down hard on them sometimes, but I didn't treat them like they were 5. I took their interests into consideration, I gave them opportunities to compete and win prizes, and I even let them tell jokes. I made an impact on them, and one that I hope will resonate positively with them and the subject of English for a long time. More teachers and tutors should consider working just as hard, if not harder, on building relationships as they do on building knowledge. I guarantee they would see a difference in their students.



